This is a time when HOW you respond and listen says as much as the actual words that come out of your mouth, ie. Close But No Cigar Coming close to a successful outcome only to fall short at the end. And here’s why I’m right.” Because that’s what you see so much in politics, right? [MUSIC: Ruby Velle & The Soulphonics, “Mr. There is incredible power in having a single focus! You can’t look for it in Google Books or something because people don’t normally write this phrase. I spend more time now simplifying the question. If you have a question, say it’s a question. They need to stop thinking about grabbing/hitting/drumming to get their brain around the new question, which can be a really useful circuit-breaker for the unhelpful behaviour. I’m a linguist and I write for Mental Floss and The Week. 5. Charlie, thank you so much. Second: Please stop leaving those poor, innocent little participles hanging on the end of phrases. )], We’ve been doing this show for a while now. Spend any time around teens, and you’re likely to hear the common expression, “That’s so gay" — even among gay kids. Be a no-nonsense, just-the-facts-please respondent. MCGOWAN: … “listen.” And whenever you hear “look” or “listen” come out of the President’s mouth that means he is no longer answering your question, he is answering his question. Say,  “Thank You” or “Yes” or “OK.” This shows that you have heard, understood and are in agreement with the need to answer. And I’ve noticed a trend…, [SFX: MONTAGE OF PEOPLE ON FREAKONOMICS RADIO SAYING “THAT’S A GREAT QUESTION]. But it’s like there’s a verbal tic going around. Another variation of this is Great minds think alike, small minds rarely differ. I mean…], LEVITT: … And it’s an incredible gift. Stop saying “It is a great question!!”. Try to avoid misusing the word "like" when making approximations, or when you are quoting someone. That’s a 100-million word database, which includes transcripts of everyday conversation as well as government meetings, media interviews, and so on. OKRENT: And I did a search on the phrase there and it only showed up 35 times in, you know, a corpus of like 100 million words. Do you ever have a circumstance where you’re interacting with someone, maybe kind of in passing and they say something to you and you don’t quite catch it or they say something to you that you don’t want to have heard but you kind of need to say something. DUBNER: Alright, so here’s what you say. What are you actually saying? Boo hoo!!! “That’s a great question” may have originated in media training, as a “bridge” — a way for an interviewee to take a question in a different direction than the interviewer intended. and this Her: "Wanna go to the park?" CHARLIE ROSE: ..there are people sitting at home saying, “This is so basic, fundamental common sense, you know?”, LEVITT: I think for us even it was embarrassing as we sat down, ‘cause we thought maybe there was some magic to what we did because people tell us there’s magic. Why do so many promising solutions — in education, medicine, criminal justice, etc. 5 Things To Stop Saying to Your Kids and What to Say Instead | Lifehack Shelly Birger Phillips is passionate about being the best human she can possibly be and supporting others to do the same. open body language, eye contact, energetic interest in the people asking you questions. save. Carrie: Sandy was one of ours murdered by one of theirs. At least this lets your partner know you heard him or her, and that you are actively thinking about the question rather than just automatically popping out with "I dunno." To respond that it is “great” is to insult your own and the rest of the audience’s intelligence. 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